30DC: My Current Relationship

I have some deep, heavy, bloggy-related posts coming up this week (preview: why self-hosting rocks, why link-baiting sucks and why not backing up your blog is just asking for trouble) so for today, I thought I’d indulge the journaling side of this site with the 30 Day Challenge.

I first saw this on meals&moves, but I know Janetha got it from a blogger who got it from a blogger (I tried going down the rabbit hole to give proper credit, but after four sites, I figured I’d just give Janetha the credit).

What’s the challenge? To answer these questions:

It’s no surprise that I’m married:

• The Engagement
• The Wedding (5-Year Anniversary)

And I’ve certainly talked about some of my triumphs AND struggles here on the blog:

• When Two Become One…Income
• Four Words I’ve Never Heard
• Marriage: It Has Its Perks

But what you may NOT know is how close Lucas and I came to blowing it all.

You see, Lucas and I actually met during our sophomore year at Syracuse University. I called him and his roommates “bathroom boys” because their room was directly across from the women’s bathroom on our dorm floor. They always left their door open and invited people to drop in, so I spent pretty much every day talking to one of them.

“One of them” rarely included Lucas, because as an architecture student, he worked, ate, slept — seriously, let’s just sum it up with lived – in studio.

But I found myself looking for him every time I’d walk by, hoping that he was there. I liked looking at him, talking to him…I had a crush, y’all.

{Looking back at pictures from us during those times, I’d say we have BOTH blossomed, but I fell for that kid with blonde spikes, earrings and glasses}

Then one day…as I was getting ready for bed…I walked by his room and there he was. Just sitting on the couch. I nervously walked in and started a conversation, and thought — “could this be it?”

When the fire alarm went off and we were all sent outside, I thought it was a sign. I was sort of right, because over the next two years, Lucas and I set out on a series of stops and starts. We could just NEVER get together at the right time, and I didn’t handle it well. We were not nice to each other (me more than him) and I did everything I could to avoid him.

Fates collided again my senior year, when Lucas got assigned to a project with two of my roommates (also architecture students). After years of not seeing him, now he was showing up at MY house. Seeing MY stuff. Laughing with MY friends.

I couldn’t help it…I’d never stopped having that crush on him, and when he came to me, nervously, and tried to start up a friendship again…

…I just couldn’t say no.

We started cautiously dating, which turned into a full-blown relationship pretty quickly. After I graduated, I stayed in the city to work, and he would visit me in my studio apartment almost every day. When he finished his fifth year of college, graduating with his architecture degree, he accepted a job at a firm in the city and we moved in together.

The rest is history. We’ve been together since 2001 and I’ve been at least a little in love with him since 1999.

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