I tend to sneer and roll my eyes when I see people posting song lyrics as their social media statuses day in and day out. But there are some songs — some words — that make my heart go bumbumbumbumbumbum extra hard when I hear them (and not because of my SVT!).
This one is speaking to me right now:
I wanted you bad,
I’m so through with it,
‘Cause honestly you turned out to be the best thing I never had
Thanks, Beyoncé (the song is called “Best Thing I Never Had”).
You see, like many of you, I struggle with patience. When I want something, I go after it — and the idea that I’m not in control can frustrate me to tears. I throw all of my time and energy into that goal, and when it doesn’t turn out the way I want, I’m left wondering why I failed…what I could do better…and why the universe is not helping a sister out.
Here are some more phrases that I’m repeating over and over like a mantra.
“All in due time. When it’s meant to be, it will be. Everything happens for a reason.”
Beyoncé is singing about relationships, and that’s where many of us learn that what we think we want is not actually what’s best for us.
{{{Fun fact: I’ve never dumped anyone, but I’ve been dumped. More times than I’d like. Thankfully, I’ve been with my best dude for more than 10 years now!}}}
Hindsight may be 20/20, but when you’re in the moment of wanting something and not getting it, it’s hard to remember that it may just take time and patience.
So if you’re struggling with a goal of your own — weight loss, a job search, a relationship — I hope that you’ll give yourself a break. I’m doing my best to give myself one!
(Oh, and you should read this emotionally honest and amazing post — “How One Breakup Defined My Entire Year” from my friend Jess. Truly inspiring.)
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Stop reading my mind, Katy!!
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I rarely give myself a break when things aren’t going how they should. I push on, then best myself up.
I should learn to cut myself some slack.
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It’s easy to get frustrated when you set a reasonable goal and yet STILL don’t hit it…What has helped me is knowing that every failure brings me closer to a success, and that all the great people in the world ALL have failed too many times to count…but they never gave up. That is my intention too! So I take the time to deal with my failure, go through the emotions, then it’s time to move on and not dwell on it. Good post
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Thank you for the kind words about my post!!! I was scared and nervous to post it but I’m really glad I did. It amazes me the number of people that have reached out to me both online and off saying the post helped them deal with a break up they went through or are currently going through. When I wrote it I was just writing it for me, but I’m so glad to hear that other people have found it valuable!
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And, I just put together who you are! I need to follow your blog. I recognized your gravatar from twitter.
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This song brought me a lot of comfort this summer when my fiancee called off our engagement. After thei nitial shock wore off, I realized that the whole experience helped me feel more at peace with my life on a daily basis. I think I always thought I would be happy when “certain things” happened, and I learned that while I’ll always have goals, timelines, etc., I needed to focus on the present a bit more. Oddly enough, once I calmed down about wanting to get married so badly I met a great guy and it seems to be working out. Anyway, I don’t know if I agree with the lyric that everything happens for a reason, but I absolutlely agree with your point about giving yourself a break!
I’m absolutely horrible about being patient. And I don’t always take the time to truly appreciate unanswered prayers.
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Great post Katy. Patience is tough sometimes and I struggle with giving up control. Not exactly where I want to be in a couple different situations, but trying to be patient and enjoy where I’m at. Working on it, anyway.
hahahahaha – something about turning Beyonce’s relationship advice into an inspirational post makes me laugh. You are amazing Katy
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Especially in college — this is majorly true. I do declare, so many of us give up on goals because we don’t have enough instantaneous gratification. Especially with men. Things that are out of our control can control so much more than we anticipate. Pun intended.
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How have I never heard this song before?!
OK, this comment has nothing to do with this post … just wanted to tell you that the other day while I was struggling with my run … I started saying “one foot in front of the other” and finished the mileage (albeit short) I had set out to do.
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Comment continued … THANK YOU!
relationships.
life.
this nails it all.
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