Call it nesting. Call it being done with people and things that waste my time. Call it growing as a person.
But as the Summer of No becomes the Fall of No Way, I’m finding that time after time, removing negatives from my life allows me to feel more positive.
Hypnobabies is big on a “Bubble of Peace” in which no negativity or stress is allowed. And I guess that’s what I’m doing. Closing my inner circle to only allow experiences that help me succeed in business and in life — but it’s harder than it sounds.
Case in point: I have been working with someone on a personal project for more than a year. He’s a great guy with a lot of passion but not much time, and what little of that he has, he’s given to me without much in return. Recently, he and I started to have some communications problems (I’m not talking out of turn — he would tell you the same thing!) as our schedules got more fragmented, the project got bigger and bigger and his own professional needs changed.
We danced around each other for weeks, neither wanting to say what needed to be said…
It was time to break up.
Now that we have — amicably and professionally — I feel a major sense of relief. Disappointment, too, as the change means that my little passion project undergoes some major technical changes. But I’ve been spending a lot of my time and energy trying to chase down problems, fix issues, get responses, etc., always ending with the same result: STRESS.
The break-up is best for both of us. And once we got it out in the open, we each shared the ways that the project has not been working…and that was cathartic. We laughed, we wished each other the best in the future, and then we moved on.
Why do I share this? Because it was freeing to me that — just like with romantic relationships and friendships — sometimes the hardest choice is the best one. Walking away from a person or project that isn’t fulfilling you is often harder than staying, but it frees up your mind and energy to take on bigger and better commitments.