Enough is Enough

I wrote a long, rant-y, from the heart, unfiltered post on Monday night, scheduled it to go live today, and planned to make no apologies for what you were about to read.

It started out with this:

Enough is FREAKING enough when it comes to racism, hate, intolerance and judgement in the world. As my friend Bess so eloquently posted on my Facebook wall this week, paraphrasing a quote she’s picked up: “The more I learn of people, the more I like the animal world.” 

And linked to this article in Jezebel: “Racist Hunger Games Fans Are Very Disappointed.”

It made me feel good, really good, to get some of my thoughts off my chest. And isn’t that the point of a blog? To have a safe space for journaling our feelings? It is for me, anyway.

But in the light of day, I’ve decided not to post my original words. It was enough for me to work through them, and I don’t think sharing them would have added anything to the discussion. I’d much rather you read the article and form your own thoughts than try to work your way through my longwinded, emotional tirade.

Suffice it to say this:

We are who we are. The good and the bad. The white and the black, and the every-color-in-between. Who knows why I was born who I was and you were born who you were?

Judgement is never going to go away, because human nature dictates that we compare ourselves to others, and we don’t understand or like what we see. That translates to snarky, mean, rude comments. Publicly and privately. 

But we don’t just let it stay with judgement and thoughts. We act, with our tweets and our weapons and our words. And we all need to be more careful. Because words hurt. And we’re all role models.

Nobody’s perfect. I gossip, and I make snide comments about some seriously inconsequential things…what people are wearing, or what celebrity is dating the latest A-lister. I’ve said and thought things that I regretted, and I’ve felt low about those thoughts. But I never have, and never will, use racist terms or epithets toward another human being. And I will never accept it from others.

Get Updates By Email!

Don't miss a single post -- subscribe for free posts delivered right to your inbox.

Comments

  1. says

    Very well put, Katy! I’m really tired of all of this myself. Some of the things I see people saying on Facebook is ridiculous. I simply don’t comment. Some people I’ve actually unsubscribed so I don’t have to see it. I wonder how I ever became friends with some of these people…

    • Marcee .... ILLINOIS says

      Right Fran. I agree w/your comments.

      As for Twitter, Facebook …. not my style. MySpace ick. Hate it.

      I haven’t time to be a slave to all those social media thingies. Actually, I’d much rather read food blogs …. healthy living and also craft blogs. I can read whatever I care to. There have been many blogs I’ve deleted because the author said weird things. So, basically, it’s all up to me ….. what I find morally correct and okay to read. Also, I enjoy reading comments ….. to reasonably share my personal opinion.

      When I do post a comment ….. never do I ever say anything hateful, mean or negative. I try and always be positive. My parents always said “if you do not have anything good to say ….. say nothing.” So, this is what I do …. what I’ve always done.

      P.S. Katy ….. L-O-V-E all your posts! I learn from you ….. bigtime! Thanks.

  2. says

    The tweets in that article are shocking. In the UK they’ve started arresting people who make racist comments on facebook, twitter etc. It’s bringing up arguments on freedom of speech, so there’s quite a debate going on. It’s quite the world we live in.

  3. says

    That article literally shocked me, having just come off a weekend of seeing The Hunger Games (twice) and hearing nothing but positivity from everyone around me in the theater and out. It also makes me sick to my stomach reading those tweets. It’s awful that such hateful and downright shitty commentary still exists, and ironic that it happens to exist about a movie that takes place in a post-apocalyptic world. Not trying to be dramatic. Just pointing it out. Very well-written post.

  4. says

    It amazes me how people always have to try and ruin something great and positive with all their negative comments. I think you are smart to leave your own opinions out of it, but I am glad you shared the article. The people tweeting and saying all these racist things, just want people to react – and they are getting what they asked for. It’s sad but hopefully everyone can move on and honor how create each character was in the movie.

  5. says

    I read that article yesterday, and it made me nauseous. And I totally agree with Bess. As much as I’d like to think we’ve grown past this, I know the hate, the blatant ignorance still festers out there…

  6. says

    After you posted the link to that article on Facebook, I went into a seething rage. It was mostly targeted at peoples’ stupidity though. I just hate everyone sometimes. I don’t understand how this constant ignorance can still exist, and even if it does, why do these people feel the need to vocalize it? You don’t hear me complaining about the lack of Asian representation in the movie, that’s for sure.

    Blargh.

    • Marcee .... ILLINOIS says

      It is outrageously sickening reading these horrible tweets and whatnots. I couldn’t believe what I was reading.

      Grow up folks ….. really-really-really. Time to mature. Finally. It won’t hurt. America is for all of us. There is plenty of room and definitely not only for white folks yaknow. Wake up your brain cells males and females alike. Duh.

      There are many days of the week when I do prefer pets to people Katy. Sad, but true. The more I see and witness …. folks seem to be worse, and worse, etc.

      What is wrong with this country anyway? I mean it. What the hay is happening? . Goodness gracious.

  7. says

    Thank you for having the energy to speak up about this. I can’t muster the energy to get upset about things like this anymore since they seem to happen every other day. If it’s not racism and the Hunger Games, it’s parents who would kill their gay children or women who’d happily accept a beating from Chris Brown. I’m not sure (and it doesn’t matter, frankly, because it’s awful regardless) if the intolerance is getting worse or if we just have more ways for people to voice their ignorant hateful thoughts. That’s the very unfortunate part of opening forums like Facebook and Twitter where anyone and everyone can say whatever stupid thing comes to mind.

    Will it be enough to stop the hate if we continue to shame the people who don’t see why their statements are wrong? Or is it just giving them the kind of attention they don’t deserve? I really don’t know, but I wish it would stop.

  8. says

    I just can not wrap my head around any of this. I read the article early this morning and basically sat in a utter stupor with my mouth hanging open. Call me naive, but haven’t we moved past the racism of our past generations? I would certainly hope so!! It’s the lowest of low, and I’m ashamed to even be on the same planet as those people.

  9. says

    I was actually shocked by that article. With the amount of insane people in the world, I shouldn’t be surprised. But not only are they “mad” about the casting, they apparently didn’t even read the book? I don’t understand. I will never understand how people get to a place where they think that is okay behavior.

  10. says

    I can’t read that article (you’re not the first link to it I’ve seen) racism hurts me and I chose to pretend that it doesn’t exist (yup admittedly ignorant)

  11. says

    Interesting post, Katy.

    There’s always going to be haters in the world. I take a rather pragmatic approach – I prefer to ignore these people as they simply bring my energy down and I can well do without that distraction.

    I married a dark skinned South African women 2 years ago and we met by dating online via Facebook. You can imagine the racism that still goes on over in South Africa, even today. Thankfully, my lil Pammi has a thick skin and even more thankful that Australia is more accepting of race (for the most part).

    Ignore the stupidity and get on with living, I say.

    • says

      Hey Katy,

      I was wondering whether you could assist me now? :)

      I’ve got a Google Penguin slap against my site at the moment and it turns out that part of it concerns keywords in comment names as well as using KeywordLuv as well.

      So how can you help me?

      is there any possibility of you changing the comment name in my comments to ‘Martin Cooney’?

      The easiest way would be via ‘Comments’ in the Admin WP panel, search for thegeek@geekandjock.com and change them quickly from there.

      You might also notice a ‘Remove KeywordLuv’ link if that’s ever been used. Do please remove those as well.

      It would be very appreciated if you could do this for me as I really would love to get out of this ongoing issue which has been going on for more than 9 months now and little help from Google in telling me what I really need to do – sheesh.

      Thanks if you can do this.

  12. Karyn18 says

    This is a great post Katy! Those racist and haters should go together. They’re all”B”. Who do they think they are. We are all human, whatever our color is, wherever we live, WE still in the same planet.

  13. says

    Great GREAT post Katy! I agree 100% with that quote – the way so many people are makes me want to withdraw from the world and hang with my dogs, it’s so sad really.

  14. Heidi19 says

    Life is full of challenges. I do believe that all of what you’ve said are just some of them. God won’t give you such problems if he knows you can’t overcome those, but he knows that you CAN. That is why, here you are, writing about it, strong enough to tell the world, “I’ve made it. It’s all said and done.” Let me share this quote to you, “In dwelling, live close to the ground. In thinking, keep to the simple. In conflict, be fair and generous. In governing, don’t try to control. In work, do what you enjoy. In family life, be completely present.”

  15. Maryden25 says

    So what’s the problem of having a black skin? Why does the author have to emphasized this description. Just because he is white? This is what I want to relay to the author of the film.. Black is beautiful!

  16. says

    When I originally commented I appear to have clicked the -Notify me when new comments are added-
    checkbox and now each time a comment is added I get four
    emails with the same comment. Is there a means you are able to remove me from that service?
    Thanks a lot!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Current ye@r *